Sunday, May 12, 2019

MOTHER'S DAY IS NOT ALWAYS A HAPPY DAY FOR SOME----

I have published this before but
I believe that someone new might
find comfort in the words written here.

You know Mother's Day is a special
day for many people.
However, 
not everyone was blessed to have
a wonderful mother.
To them, Mother's Day is a mockery,
an injustice because of
 all the hurts they
have suffered.

Blogging is not all sweetness
and light.
There are deep, dark pains
that hide beneath some of
the smiling faces...
aches that are too
deep to share with anyone.

Also- I want to acknowledge
that today is a sad day for
those dear women that wanted
desperately to be mothers
and were unable to conceive,
or lost their children in miscarriages,
and to those that made
a decision to not have children
and now regret it.
Also- to those whose children
have passed before them-
Unimaginable pain to bear----
I know there is a lot of pain
in all of our hearts and 
we all grieve with you.

I think this piece I wrote
addresses both types of 
MOTHERS

Mother's Day

Some of us have been blessed with wonderful Mothers.
Some of us have Mothers that were not quite so admirable.

Some of us have Mothers that praised us and adored us,
Some of us have Mothers that never said a kind word.

Some of us have Mothers that loved us unconditionally.
Some of us have Mothers that loved us only
if we met all her expectations,
and even that was not enough.

Some of us have Mothers that smiled readily.
Some of us have Mothers that never found much to smile about.

Some of us have Mothers that~
whatever we did~ it is more than they hoped for.
Some of us have Mothers that
no matter WHAT we did-it was never 
"quite right".

Some of us have Mothers that had a charmed childhood.
Some of us have Mothers that were raised in pain & shame.

Some of us have Mothers that
 need us & want us in their lives.
Some of us have Mothers that are needy
 and we seldom see them.

Some of us have Mothers that complete our lives.
Some of us have Mothers that
leave us aching, wanting and empty.

Some of us have Mothers that stand
on this side of the Great Beyond.
Some of us have Mothers that have passed
 over this earthly barrier.

Some of us will emulate our Mothers.
Some of us will vow to never be
anything like our Mothers.

Some of us are happy and fulfilled,
no matter what kind of Mother we had.
Some of us will never be happy
even if we were nurtured by an amazing Mother.

Today I am blessed to be a Mother.
My daughters are blessed to be Mothers, too.
Today I vow that I will be
the best mother (and grandmother) I can be.

Today I vow that I will love
as deeply as I can those that share my life.

Today I know that I am blessed indeed~
Today I hope that you find blessings
in your own life-
and love your Mother
even if it is just because she gave you life.

~Happy Mother's Day from Me to You~
©Nana Diana 
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46 comments:

mxtodis123 said...

Oh, that warmed my heart. Happy Mother's Day.

WILLIE........! =^..^= said...
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NanaDiana said...

I never reply on my blog about comments I receive but feel I need to do so this time.
I am sorry you take offense at this post, Willie, but there are those that have hidden their hurts and feelings for so long that it tears them up inside. They feel lost and isolated in their pain. I want them to know that they are not alone- that there are others that share their pain but also share the pride in the fact that they have moved forward despite the obstacles placed before them. I want people to know that it okay to have mixed feelings and that they don't need to carry that guilt with them -it is a burden to be shared and thus-lightened. Blessings to you-

jack69 said...

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO YOU. No doubt your children and all the family rise up and call you 'BLESSED'. I think you covered the subject well. and needed for many, I am thankful to have had a wonderful mom.
From NC Sherry & jack

Jettie said...

I had the 'other mother' not the one we all wish for, and I survived it an made myself a different person and raised and loved my children equally. The pain of having 'that mother' is nothing fun. And did she know what she was doing, you bet she did. I make no excuses for her, and I'll make no excuses for the way I feel.

I'm mostly known as 'MA' said...

Such a sweet post full of thoughtfulness and caring. Wishing you a very Happy Mother's Day too!

NanaDiana said...

Just wanted to share this- I can only say WOW! Just WOW!!!


Willie Wine
7:23 AM (24 minutes ago)
to me

ALL your information has been 'deleted' and 'blocked'...
I have removed myself from your Blog..if you wish to
continue to depress and upset followers..that's up to you..
We have to write our comments in a silly box that comes
up on the top left, and not on the actual post..and you write
to people who comment by e~mail..that's silly..most of the
post l follow, have replies on the actual post, so everyone
can see it..then everyone gets involved..
It was fun while it lasted...AND! YES! l have taken offense....
PERIOD...!!! :(

Sandi said...


Thank you for this, Diana. God bless you.

Laurie said...

such a beautiful post, you've shown the other side of what is not always a happy day.Life is messy and never perfect, I applaud you for doing this is such a beautiful way, thank you for sharing ALL of this ,,

Tom said...

...life is filled with sad and happy days. Dad days that fall on a holidays are particularly sad. I wish you a Happy Mother's Day.

Lisa said...

This is a fantastic post and speaks to everyone. I know I am blessed with a loving Mother but I know their are some that are not as blessed and hurt on the inside. I always pray on this day that they can some how find good in it and maybe acknowledge a special woman in their life weather its a friend, teacher or roll model.
Happy Mothers Day to you!
Lisa

nonie everythingsewing said...

Thank you so much. You are such a wonderful, wonderful person and even though it is blog land, I am so thankful I was directed to your blog and that you are in my life.

Have a wonderful day.

Nonie

Debbie-Dabble Blog and A Debbie-Dabble Christmas said...

Diana,
Thanks so much for posting this...I loved my Mother but I seemed to never live up to her expectations and was always compared to my sister , who to my Mother was perfect in every way!! I applaud you , my friend, for posting this because not everyone's relationship with their Mother was a Fairy tale...
Happy Mother's Day!!
Hugs,
Deb

Debbie-Dabble Blog and A Debbie-Dabble Christmas said...

Diana,
I shared your post on facebook because it really touched my heart!!
Hugs,
Deb

bill burke said...

Happy M9ther's Day, Diana!

CHERI said...

I can very much identify with the sentiments of this post. Mother's Day is such a bittersweet day for me. We lost our 9 yr. old daughter in 1986 and Mother's Day has never been the same. There are always some tears for that sweet, sweet child we lost who can't give me a Mother's Day hug, but also many smiles as my son (now 46) gives me a hug and tells me he loves me. And, of course, the blessing of my two wonderful grandchildren, 16 and 13. I've often said, "God chose to take alot away from me, but He has also blessed me with so much." My love, prayers, and hugs go out to the many mother's who find difficulties in this special day. Thank you so much, Diana, for thinking of us. Happy Mother's Day to you.

Terri D said...

Well said. Thank you!

Adam said...

Happy Mother's Day

Kay G. said...

Yes, I know you have this for Mother's day and I hope you always will. Happy Mother's day who also seems to mother the world and that is a good thing! You are awesome. Happy Mother's day, sweet Diana!😊

Chatty Crone said...

You know your poem rings true. I thought it was wonderful.
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY to you.

Melanie said...

Thank you so much for posting this, Diana. Mother's Day is a "mixed bag" for me. I'm grateful that my mother is still alive and that we have a good relationship. I'm also grateful for my youngest son, Tim who is one of the brightest blessings in my life. But I'm also one of those mothers who has a child that has passed away (my oldest son, 9-1/2 years ago), so this day also holds a lot of pain.

PS - Who is "Willie Wine" that made that judgmental and unkind comment?! Is that an actual person and not a spammer?!

Pam said...

Very nicely said....its been hard but I did my best to stay busy, that helped a lot. Hoping you had a good day.

Anonymous said...

You said it well. Ignore those who take offense, tho do not know why they do unless guilt. I find it bittersweet as well as never gave birth. Adopted a drug baby who went into drugs despite all we did for him. My nephew and nieces say he was lucky to have had me as a mom and i made a wonderful difference in their lives. I was blessed tho. Had to use anonymous due to computer problems but this is Rose of Musings, Meanderings and Merriment from Rose. Bless you Diana!!!

Junkchiccottage said...

Beautifully put! Hope your day was good and you celebrated the beautiful mom, Nana and friend you are.
Happy Mother's Day.
xoxo
Kris

Anonymous said...

Enjoyed reading your wise and beautiful words.
Happy Mothers Day,
Phyllis

Ann said...

This is so well said and so very true. I hope you had a wonderful Mothers Day

Theresa said...

Very true dear friend, thanks for sharing! I don't really like Mother's Day but try to smile thru it because of my Daughter! Since my Mama passed away in 1988, I just wait for the day to come and go. Kinda selfish of me, but that's how I feel. Have a blessed day, HUGS!

R's Rue said...

❤️

Debby Ray said...

This has covered it all, Diana...and you have to cover it all when you know that everyone has not experienced the blessing of having a wonderful, loving mother. I am so very thankful that I was...but life isn't always pretty...in fact, many times it can be quite the opposite. Thank you for always thinking of how others feel. HUGS!

Rain said...

That's a great post Diana, and very true. I fall into the first category, no good memories of my mother or grandmothers actually, I prefer to just forget about it. I never wanted children, but I do have FURRY kids lol...my friends just get used to wishing me a Happy Fur-Mom's day! :)

Art and Sand said...

I posted flowers I received from my daughter on Instagram. As I replied to comments of "Happy Mother's Day", it hit me that not everyone who was saying that to me was necessarily a mother.

Carla from The River said...

Thank you for sharing Diana. This is so very true. I appreciate the honesty you share here. I have a friend who went thru terrible abuse from her mother. Very sad .. praying for all.
Carla

This N That said...

well said...as always..you hit home for me!! xoxo

Jeanie said...

You are so right, Diana. For many years after my mom died (MANY) and with no kids, it was the hardest holiday of the year. I hope your day was happy. I know you also have those cute grands too!

happyone said...

So true, not a happy day for all.
Though my mom was not the best mom I loved her and have long since forgiven her for all the cruel things she said to me.

My son made my mothers day a happy one. : )
My daughter has not spoken to us for over 6 years now. :(

Leslie Harris said...

Diana I was scrolling through the comments on the way to leave mine and I couldn't help but read the comment Willie Wine whoever that is--left about deleting your blog. I hope you don't spend one second thinking about it. You are refreshingly real and authentic and this post was an example of you acknowledging a slice of real life that most of us truly appreciate. Thank you for being YOU.

BeachGypsy said...

I thought it was a lovely post! it covered many different types of mothering. We've all had different experiences. We need to realize that "our" reality may very well NOT BE someone elses reality. Not only did we ALL HAVE many different types of mother experiences, many good, and many bad, but we have also all experienced motherhood in our own way, those of us who bore children, those of us who adopted, took in foster children, mothered neices or nephews or grandbabies. We must also remember many who had babies at a very young age, and learned to mother as they grew up right along with their babies, and also women who had children in later years, as well as women who longed for children and either couldn't have them, or experienced the sadness of misscarriage or stillbirth. Therefore, we all experience motherhood differently and Mother's day can be a day of joy, a day of sadness, a day of beautiful and fun memories or a day you'd rather forget, for your own personal reasons. Parts of my Mothers day yesterday were a day of "grief" because I just recently lost my Mom. There are others who may be going through this as well.
So I thought your post was entirely appropriate and sensitive. Love ya girlfriend!

Blondie's Journal said...

This is a beautiful and uplifting post, Diana. We need to think about women (and men) who wanted (want) children so badly. And for so many, pets are babies, nieces, nephews, and the children of friends. They become our adopted kids!

My daughter and hubby tried for five years to finally have their little Madelyn. 2 1/2 years later, they are expecting again, another grand coming in November for me!! For them--it's a miracle.

Thank you, dear. This was such a touching post. I haven't been getting around much lately. I had to have Milo put down six days ago and I'm still raw. Its good to read a post from you.

Jane x

Preppy Empty Nester said...

Beautiful, Diana. That pic that you posted was in my room when I was little. My Mom told me that it was me. When I went to a different doctor, he had the same pic. I was so flattered that he had a pic of me in his office!!! Have a great week, Diana!

John's Island said...

Hello Diana, First of all I want to say thank you for visiting my blog and leaving me kind and thoughtful comments. Your Mother's Day post here is powerful. I applaud you for addressing both sides of the coin. While I feel lucky to have had a wonderful mother, I also have some experience with those who are not so great. This morning, as usual on Tuesdays, I spent a few hours at one of our large hospitals here in Seattle. My volunteer work is in the NICU where I help busy nurses by holding little babies who need a little extra care. Many of the babies I've held are called NAS ... they are the ones born to mothers who are addicted to drugs and have passed the addiction on to their child. Sometimes these mothers don't even come into the NICU to bond with their little ones because they don't care about them. The nurses try to give them as much love and care as they can. These little ones have a tough road ahead. So you have hit the nail on the head here to remind us that not all mothers are so great. Thank you for sharing this. Now, getting back to my blog ... I'm happy you've found my blog and I look forward to your visits. Thank you again for stopping by. Have a good rest of the week! John

Gayla said...

Have a nice big cup of something wonderful... not Willie Wine! and realize your post was meant for those who feel left out by all the mainstream posts about this holiday. I am certain it touched a nerve with some, just as it soothed and healed others. I know you are a fun and loving mother and grandmother. Thanks for the thoughts... Now on to Memorial Day.

Red Rose Alley said...

It was thoughtful of you, Diana, to acknowledge all the Mothers in the world and some of their experiences they might have gone through. Having you as a dear blog friend for many years, you know I had a close relationship with my mom. She was a wonderful wife, Mother, and lady all around. My heart goes out to those who didn't share that same journey growing up. Sometimes when a person is living with pain and suffering it may be hard for them to be a good Mother. It's sad to me, cause a cycle begins and sometimes continues through generations. That's why I'm thankful to my Mother because her being a good mom made generations of good moms. You are a good Mother and Grandmother, Diana, and this was a thoughtful post, and I'm sure it helped many people.

love, ~Sheri

Down On The Farm said...

Wonderful post. I am so blessed. Two wonderful kids and my first Mother's Day as a grandma!! Hooray!!! But Mother's Day was difficult too, as this is my first Mother's Day without my mom. I miss her terribly, especially on Mother's Day. My mother was a wonderful lady. Not perfect, as none of us are perfect, but I am blessed beyond measure to be her daughter. My heart's desire is to be like her. I'm sorry someone said something mean to you (I didn't see the comment before it was deleted). You are a wonderful lady and you didn't deserve anything negative at all. Hugs my friend! Hope YOU had a great Mother's Day!!

Jen Kershner said...

So very true and important to consider! For every mom who is seemingly spoiled and adored by her perfect family on social media, there are probably 1,000 that are hurting.

Karen @ Beatrice Euphemie said...

Aw, Diana, these are such truthful and poignant words, my dear. My Mom was definitely the latter. Sometimes Mom's like these have many sides and people can't believe your story. They think that you are making it up because they see the gracious, wonderful side of her, not the mean, hateful side. Sometimes nobody believes you. Not your aunts, not your teachers, not your friend's Mom, not even your Dad and some of your sisters. You keep how you are treated a secret, and wonder what is wrong with you, that your own Mom doesn't even love you. So you learn to love yourself. And you have to love yourself with enough left over to love her, too. I suppose that is the gift.....you learn so many lessons. Compassion for little children. Compassion for yourself and your own courage. Knowing that you can make it in this life despite it all. And learning to forgive and love someone who maybe doesn't deserve it, but requires it so that you can be free. Thank you for sharing, I am with you. Hugs xo Karen

Lowcarb team member said...

I'm very late to this blog post and here in the UK we celebrated our Mother's Day on the 31 March.

I thought this post was just right. Thank you for taking the time to put it together, post and share it with us here.

All the best Jan